Jim's quote is a powerful one that I keep reminding myself over and over again. I believe the key underlying intent of Jim’s quote encourages us to spend time with people who influences the person we eventually would like to become. Now we don't want to use this quote as an excuse on why we haven't reached our "happy place" or the level of success we are striving for. Bottom line in my blog message today is that you need to BELIEVE in what you are passionate about, be consistent, own your decisions and be proactive. If you do these four things there will be no reason why you can’t accomplish anything you want, regardless of our environment!
You can easily reshape your life by choosing who you spend the most time with. Start by examining the people you spend the most time around. Consider if these people are enabling you toward your envisioned self. If they are not, identify and increase contact with the people who will enable you to become the best person you can be.
So here's the question "What kind of person do you desire to be?" Grab a sheet of paper, jot down the answer followed by the four below:
- List five individuals you spend the most time with.
- Ask yourself, do these five individuals match to the person you desire to become?
- List five individuals who embody the qualities you thrive to become.
- Ask yourself, how can you increase your time with those individuals?
Of course, this does not mean you should sever relationships or cut away every single person who does not contribute to your goals. It just means you should reduce the amount of contact you are having with people who do not enable you to become a better person. If you’re concerned that your relationships might have a negative effect on your own attitude or functioning, it’s probably time to make some changes, both in yourself and in your choice of relationships.
If you like what you see in your circle of friends, you’re probably doing well for yourself. A good circle of friends is supportive and reinforces your best attributes. On the other hand, if you don’t like what you see there, you’re probably struggling. A poor circle of friends brings each other down and reinforces one’s worst attributes. Don't leave yourself out, you should also consider evaluating yourself. We have to keep in mind that our own negativity or lack of achievement will attract the “wrong crowd.” Positive relationships support positive behaviors.